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Many years ago, I went to my church’s women’s retreat, determined to wrest from God His answer to a decision with which I’d been grappling. I had been praying for several years about being a youth leader, but He had clearly said no each time I tried to sign up. I mean, it was unequivocally clear, closed doors and all. Nonetheless, I kept asking Him for it, hoping and waiting for the time He’d give the green light. At the same time, a seemingly competing desire captivated my heart: a fourth child. I didn’t see how both could be possible (there are only so many hours in the day, and my husband, three sons, and on-call job seemed to fill them all), so I went up the mountain that weekend for a showdown of consecrated will-seeking.
On the afternoon of the second day of the retreat, I was sitting by the lake with my Bible and journal, praying and seeking God’s decision about which one of those two options was His choice for me. And suddenly, Psalm 37:4 leaped through my mind like a deer:
“Delight yourself in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
Just like that, I knew He had spoken into this decision, and I had peace. I didn’t have an answer one way or the other, but I knew that all He wanted me to do was delight myself in Him, and He would grant me what was in His will.
Six months later, I was pregnant with my fourth son.
Six months after his birth, God called me to start a prayer team for the youth ministry at our church. His plan all along had not been for me to be a youth leader, but to form an intercessory prayer team of moms who would pray FOR the youth pastor, leaders, and kids. It was His perfect timing, because there were situations that needed prayer. His perfect timing, because when I had first started praying to be a youth leader years before, I was a young Christian and needed a whole lot of cleaning up and Bible-learning and priority-adjusting.
That youngest son just grew up, from carseat to teenage, being part of youth ministry. That’s how God gave both. Fourth son and his 3-year-older brother were “mascots” in their young years, the name we gave to kids accompanying their parents in their responsbilities as youth leaders. And before you knew it, he was a legitimate youth grouper in his own right among leaders and kids he’d known all his years.
So, God did both–gave me a fourth son AND a ministry that had been going 16 years by the time I left it–because I chose to delight myself in Him and leave the results of my petitions to Him. He was able to determine what truly were my desires, because, of course, us flawed folks often get godly heart-desires and fleshy wants all mixed up.
Recently, I’ve been asking God for something that feels pretty impossible and yet is such a yearning for this season of my life. As I was praying about it last week, again there was Psalm 37:4 in my head: “Delight yourself in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” I’ve walked with the Lord some years since that weekend at the retreat (that fourth son is now 22!), and it’s much more natural to trust Him with whatever He wants to do with this request of mine. My focus isn’t on the “desire”, but on “delighting in Him.” I have seen His faithfulness so many times, in every area of my life, that I just simply trust whatever He decides to do as I recommit myself to delighting myself in Him.
But I’ve also been thinking about–what if this verse was simply, “Delight yourself in the LORD”–period? End? Fact? What if I didn’t concern myself at all about the second part of the verse–getting the desires of my heart? What if I just lived in 37:4a, and forgot, ignored, 37:4b? I can see that my faith has matured over the last quarter century from–how do I get this result from the Lord; how do I make Him pleased so that I’m in the “zone” for rewards–to, Lord, I just want to delight myself in You…
Because that’s enough.
Yes, He is a giver of all good things (James 1:17), and He loves to bless His people (too many verses to hunt down and note here!). He loves to reward faith and trust and obedience and sacrificial love. He can’t NOT, because it’s His very nature. But what if, walking out into 2026, we just focus on delighting in Him? After all, any thing, circumstance, relationship, etc., that comes from Him because of that will actually be less than the experience we have as we delight in Him. “If He is our delight, He gives us more of Himself. ‘Longings fixed on Him fulfill themselves.'” (Guzik commentary, quoting Maclaren)
Question: is there something you’ve been wrestling with God for in prayer? How would your petitions change if you focused on just delighting yourself in Him?


